Sure, office romances aren’t exactly favorable (especially for the organization!) but that doesn’t mean you can’t find and keep love amidst the cubicles. And let’s be honest, you can’t control where you fall in love. So if you’ve found love at the workplace and want it to last without rocking the corporate boats, take these tips on how it should be done.
1. Be discreet
You don’t have to hide your blossoming romance; instead you should be open about it so that nobody makes any assumptions. But don’t cross the line between being open and being over the top. Leave the PDAs out of the office door and don’t let your lust cloud your professionalism. This means no using of office emails to send each other quickie love notes, going away on weekend trips using the company’s corporate expense, and certainly no hanky-panky in the storage room in the pretense of “overtime”.
2. Have more in common than just work
Work may be the reason that brought the two of you together but if it is the only thing you ever talk about on dates, bad news, your office romance will most likely fizzle before you can say 9-to-5. So do this: Get to know each other away from the office surroundings and plan dates around activities that don’t remind you of work at all. In a relationship, try your best not to be each other’s sounding board when it comes to work; you don’t want work to be the only thing that binds the two of you.
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3. Give each other space in the office
You already go on dates and you’re probably spending weekends together from morning to night. So come Monday morning, give your partner some space away from you. Last thing you want is to be constantly hounding him in the office, taking his time away from important work tasks and potentially causing his boss to reprimand him for losing focus. Be considerate–you’re both there in the office to work, not to flirt. And don’t sound the alarm the minute you see him with a female colleague hunch over a file. Honey, it’s purely business and come 5:30pm, he’ll be all yours.
You already go on dates and you’re probably spending weekends together from morning to night. So come Monday morning, give your partner some space away from you. Last thing you want is to be constantly hounding him in the office, taking his time away from important work tasks and potentially causing his boss to reprimand him for losing focus. Be considerate–you’re both there in the office to work, not to flirt. And don’t sound the alarm the minute you see him with a female colleague hunch over a file. Honey, it’s purely business and come 5:30pm, he’ll be all yours.
4. Date within your level
Here’s where the phrase “out of your league” really comes into play. For office romances to work, it is recommended that you date someone who is in the same position as you are. Dating someone in a higher or lower position can bring about unwanted attention like how you are sleeping with the boss or that you’re playing the favoritism card as a superior. If you’re on the receiving end, it can also dramatically affect your future within the company as other colleagues may not appreciate what they may feel is double standards (even if it’s not).
Here’s where the phrase “out of your league” really comes into play. For office romances to work, it is recommended that you date someone who is in the same position as you are. Dating someone in a higher or lower position can bring about unwanted attention like how you are sleeping with the boss or that you’re playing the favoritism card as a superior. If you’re on the receiving end, it can also dramatically affect your future within the company as other colleagues may not appreciate what they may feel is double standards (even if it’s not).
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5. Leave the drama at home!
Like all couples, chances are you’d probably have a disagreement or two. But unlike couples who don’t work together, there’s a possibility of you bringing that domestic drama into the office. Our advice? Don’t. Leave the arguments at home and don’t make it obvious that the two of you aren’t happy with one another (not speaking or brushing each other off can be major clues). Your other colleagues won’t appreciate the tension and icy stares you’re giving each other, making it hard and uncomfortable to work around you two.
6. Ask for a transfer
If you’re working in the same department, ask for a transfer. Working on the same project? Asked to be changed. This is the easiest way to end all “conflict of interests” problems as well as rumors among your colleagues. You want your boss and colleagues to see you as a professional team player, and not the other half of a dating couple. If necessary and if you think the relationship is worth it, then it might be a good idea to consider employment in a different organization so you don’t fall into the pit holes of office romances.
5. Leave the drama at home!
Like all couples, chances are you’d probably have a disagreement or two. But unlike couples who don’t work together, there’s a possibility of you bringing that domestic drama into the office. Our advice? Don’t. Leave the arguments at home and don’t make it obvious that the two of you aren’t happy with one another (not speaking or brushing each other off can be major clues). Your other colleagues won’t appreciate the tension and icy stares you’re giving each other, making it hard and uncomfortable to work around you two.
6. Ask for a transfer
If you’re working in the same department, ask for a transfer. Working on the same project? Asked to be changed. This is the easiest way to end all “conflict of interests” problems as well as rumors among your colleagues. You want your boss and colleagues to see you as a professional team player, and not the other half of a dating couple. If necessary and if you think the relationship is worth it, then it might be a good idea to consider employment in a different organization so you don’t fall into the pit holes of office romances.
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